CUBs 2018 Retreat

October 5-7 Safety Harbor Resort and Spa, Safety Harbor, FL
Concerned United Birthparents is very pleased to announce that the 2018 Annual Retreat will take place at the Safety Harbor Resort and Spa, Safety Harbor, FL (near Tampa) from October 5-7, 2018.

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Is Adoption Trauma?

This Adoption Trauma button will take you to a powerful and comprehensive resource.

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Common Terms Related to the Adoption Community

Compiled by Lesli Johnson, MFT 

Attachment style – The way a person relates to others and the world. A person’s attachment style is based on how primary caregivers responded to them as children (particularly in times of distress). The styles play out in intimate relationships and how individuals parent their children. The four styles acquired in childhood correspond to attachment status in adults:

Secure (child) – Secure (adult)
Avoidant (child) – Dismissive (adult)
Ambivalent (child) – Preoccupied (adult)
Disorganized (child) – Unresolved/disorganized (adult)

It’s important to note that because of neuroplasticity, a person can gain an “earned” secure attachment throughout the lifespan. Also important is all of the attachment categories are descriptions of an attachment style, not a trait of the child/person. Dan Siegel, Mary Ainsworth, Mary Main and others have written extensively on attachment theory.

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Support Groups

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CUB provides support for all family members separated by adoption; resources to help prevent unnecessary family separations; education about the life-long impact on all who are affected by adoption; and advocates for fair and ethical adoption laws, policies, and practices.

A temporary lack of resources – not a lack of love – is often the reason birthparents surrender their parental rights. If parents are unable to raise their children, they should have a say in who will. Denying loving parents knowledge of their children, even when those children become adults, is a cruel and unnecessary punishment that causes suffering for all. A severing of parental rights does not cut off a parent’s love.

What You Should Know if You're Considering Adoption for Your Baby

News & Notes

Before you do it -- Making Contact with Adoptees/Birthparents...

Making contact is a profoundly moving experience for both the searcher and the person who has been found; there is no other experience quite like it. One’s hopes and fears are all wrapped up in this final step in the search process. While you want to take into account the other person’s privacy and unique situation, it is really not possible to know that much about his or her current life situation prior to contact. We suggest discretion and plenty of forethought. Sometimes searchers worry that they will interrupt the life of the person found. Remember that by contacting him or her, the searcher is simply providing both individuals with the opportunity to know one another. This is an opportunity that has been denied both the adopted adult and his/her birth parent until now. When all the secrets are out on the table, it is so much easier to understand, to share, and to relate to those with whom we are irrevocably tied by blood and circumstance.

Adoptees On Podcasts

PLEASE NOTE: Haley Radke has recorded and interviewed many participants from the Retreat. Adult adoptees discuss the adoption experience in this enlightening series. (Available on several different podcast services)


Concerned United Birthparents Announcement on Saving Our Sisters.

Adoption Surveys

Participate in surveys surrounding issues in the adoption community. You can also read the results of recent surveys including some focused on adoptees from open adoption and closed adoption and birth parent's perceptions of open adoption.