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This Adoption Trauma button will take you to a powerful and comprehensive resource.
Just as unwed mothers in previous decades were often not given the option of keeping the babies they carried, mothers and fathers today are having their children forcefully removed from their arms at the border we share with Mexico. There is the very real threat that many of these forced separations will end up in coerced adoption.
Kathryn Joyce is author of "The Child Catchers: Rescue, Trafficking and the New Gospel of Adoption" and "Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement." Her articles have appeared in the New York Times Magazine, Highline, Pacific Standard, the New Republic, and many others. She was the keynote speaker at the CUB Retreat in 2013.
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CUB provides support for all family members separated by adoption; resources to help prevent unnecessary family separations; education about the life-long impact on all who are affected by adoption; and advocates for fair and ethical adoption laws, policies, and practices.
A temporary lack of resources – not a lack of love – is often the reason birthparents surrender their parental rights. If parents are unable to raise their children, they should have a say in who will. Denying loving parents knowledge of their children, even when those children become adults, is a cruel and unnecessary punishment that causes suffering for all. A severing of parental rights does not cut off a parent’s love.
Making contact is a profoundly moving experience for both the searcher and the person who has been found; there is no other experience quite like it. One’s hopes and fears are all wrapped up in this final step in the search process. While you want to take into account the other person’s privacy and unique situation, it is really not possible to know that much about his or her current life situation prior to contact. We suggest discretion and plenty of forethought. Sometimes searchers worry that they will interrupt the life of the person found. Remember that by contacting him or her, the searcher is simply providing both individuals with the opportunity to know one another. This is an opportunity that has been denied both the adopted adult and his/her birth parent until now. When all the secrets are out on the table, it is so much easier to understand, to share, and to relate to those with whom we are irrevocably tied by blood and circumstance.
PLEASE NOTE: Haley Radke has recorded and interviewed many participants from the Retreat. Adult adoptees discuss the adoption experience in this enlightening series. (Available on several different podcast services)
Concerned United Birthparents Announcement on Saving Our Sisters.
Participate in surveys surrounding issues in the adoption community. You can also read the results of recent surveys including some focused on adoptees from open adoption and closed adoption and birth parent's perceptions of open adoption.