Beware National Adoption Awareness Month (NAAM)

In its current iteration, NAAM has become four weeks of proselytizing adoption. Before you celebrate, get the real story
 

 

Is Adoption Trauma?

This Adoption Trauma button will take you to a powerful and comprehensive resource.

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Birthmothers: Their Rightful Place in Critical Adoption Studies

           As a birthmother and literary scholar, I have often written about my own experience as an unwed mother as well as analyzed representations of unwed mothers in mythology, literature, and film. But whenever adoption enters the story, as it did in my own, I find myself in problematic terrain. Although I can write with a certain theoretical detachment about the historical and contemporary penalties for unwed mothers, when adoption is involved I must first confront resentment and regret, sentiments that have not substantially subsided in over fifty years. When I was recently asked to make a brief statement on theorizing critical adoption studies, I again had to face my enduring emotional turmoil and the methodological dilemmait creates: how can I objectively “theorize” about a social practice that was for me coercive and exploitive? How can I navigate the turbulent waters where emotion and critical thinking collide? I was only sixteen when my parents shipped me from Southern California to an aunt in Cleveland and then, when my pregnancy could no longer be concealed, to Akron’s Florence Crittenton Home for Unwed Mothers. Like so many middle-class girls in the “baby scoop” era, I felt powerless to determine my fate and so “agreed” to all the arcane machinations that kept my pregnancy a secret.

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Support Groups

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CUB provides support for all family members separated by adoption; resources to help prevent unnecessary family separations; education about the life-long impact on all who are affected by adoption; and advocates for fair and ethical adoption laws, policies, and practices.

A temporary lack of resources – not a lack of love – is often the reason birthparents surrender their parental rights. If parents are unable to raise their children, they should have a say in who will. Denying loving parents knowledge of their children, even when those children become adults, is a cruel and unnecessary punishment that causes suffering for all. A severing of parental rights does not cut off a parent’s love.
 


What You Should Know if You're Considering Adoption for Your Baby

News & Notes

Before you do it -- Making Contact with Adoptees/Birthparents...

Making contact is a profoundly moving experience for both the searcher and the person who has been found; there is no other experience quite like it. One’s hopes and fears are all wrapped up in this final step in the search process. While you want to take into account the other person’s privacy and unique situation, it is really not possible to know that much about his or her current life situation prior to contact. We suggest discretion and plenty of forethought. Sometimes searchers worry that they will interrupt the life of the person found. Remember that by contacting him or her, the searcher is simply providing both individuals with the opportunity to know one another. This is an opportunity that has been denied both the adopted adult and his/her birth parent until now. When all the secrets are out on the table, it is so much easier to understand, to share, and to relate to those with whom we are irrevocably tied by blood and circumstance.

Adoptees On Podcasts

PLEASE NOTE: Haley Radke has recorded and interviewed many participants from the Retreat. Adult adoptees discuss the adoption experience in this enlightening series. (Available on several different podcast services)

CONCERNED UNITED BIRTHPARENTS ANNOUNCEMENT ON SOS

Concerned United Birthparents Announcement on Saving Our Sisters.

Adoption Surveys

Participate in surveys surrounding issues in the adoption community. You can also read the results of recent surveys including some focused on adoptees from open adoption and closed adoption and birth parent's perceptions of open adoption.