The CUB retreat was a wonderful success this year! Thank you to ALL the volunteers who attended and to all who assisted in putting on what has been called "THE BEST CUB RETREAT YET" by some of the almost 100 people who attended this year. (CUB itself just keeps getting better and better as it continues to grow and serve so many people! We know there is a need to support other birthparents and adoptees and adoptive parents, and until there is no need, we will be here!) CUB retreats are usually small, intimate gatherings where people can connect, heal and grow, and meet other like-minded members of the adoption triad. This year we invited several professionals who are also members of the triad--and we are delighted they joined us! It was a wonderful opportunity to hear from authors, therapists and birth and adoptive parents, as well as many adoptees.
A video recording of the panels at the retreat will be available soon in our Online Store.
Common Terms Related to the Adoption Community
Compiled by Lesli Johnson, MFT
Attachment style – The way a person relates to others and the world. A person’s attachment style is based on how primary caregivers responded to them as children (particularly in times of distress). The styles play out in intimate relationships and how individuals parent their children. The four styles acquired in childhood correspond to attachment status in adults:
Secure (child) – Secure (adult)
Avoidant (child) – Dismissive (adult)
Ambivalent (child) – Preoccupied (adult)
Disorganized (child) – Unresolved/disorganized (adult)
Read More ...
Here's What is Happening Now on Facebook:
CUB provides support for all family members separated by adoption; resources to help prevent unnecessary family separations; education about the life-long impact on all who are affected by adoption; and advocates for fair and ethical adoption laws, policies, and practices.
A temporary lack of resources – not a lack of love – is often the reason birthparents surrender their parental rights. If parents are unable to raise their children, they should have a say in who will. Denying loving parents knowledge of their children, even when those children become adults, is a cruel and unnecessary punishment that causes suffering for all. A severing of parental rights does not cut off a parent’s love.
News & Notes
PLEASE NOTE: Haley Radke has recorded and interviewed many participants from the Retreat. Adult adoptees discuss the adoption experience in this enlightening series. (Available on several different podcast services)
Concerned United Birthparents Announcement on Saving Our Sisters.
Participate in surveys surrounding issues in the adoption community. You can also read the results of recent surveys including some focused on adoptees from open adoption and closed adoption and birth parent's perceptions of open adoption.